How to Get a Woman to Orgasm - Video

Nadia Bokody, ASTROGLIDE ambassador, sex columnist, and YouTuber, shares her top three tips for getting a woman to climax. Whether you're a woman yourself or the partner of a woman, you're probably unfortunately familiar with the fact that during partnered sex, women tend to experience a little more difficulty getting to climax than men do.

A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that heterosexual men tend to orgasm roughly 90% of the time during partnered sex, for women that number is just 64%. So how do we close the orgasm gap? We've got good news for you! These three simple hacks make a big difference and help your female partner get to orgasm each and every time.

Hack #1 - Slow It Down

Research indicates that men tend to experience arousal reactively. That essentially means that when a guy sees a sexually attractive partner get naked, he gets turned on. But for women, arousal tends to be something that happens contextually. What that means is that all of the factors surrounding sex, in our environment and in the lead up to sex, impact how turned on we are able to get. Factors that can impact female arousal include stress, relationships, comfort level, and even temperature. All of these things can influence whether or not we're able to get in the mood.

The best thing you can do as the partner of a woman is to slow things down so she has time to relax and get out of her head. One of my favorite ways to do that is something I like to call "clothes-on foreplay" and that is exactly what it sounds like - foreplay with your clothes on. Remember when you were teenagers and you use to just make out and touch with clothes on, sometimes for hours? Go back to that! Not only will it reignite some fun and novelty, but it can spark intense arousal and a sense of anticipation. It will give her the time she needs to relax and get out of her head.

Hack # 2 - Get Her Wet

Unfortunately, it doesn't really matter how turned on a woman is or how attentive and incredible a lover you are, if she is not adequately lubricated her chances of reaching climax dramatically decline. That's because when there's not enough lubrication during sex, the friction of intercourse can lead to discomfort and even pain. Now there's this idea that when a woman is aroused, she naturally gets wet and this simply isn't true. It's completely possible for a woman to feel very turned on and not be adequately lubricated.

Factors that can impact natural lubrication include hormones, medication, stress, illness, menopause, and aging. The best thing you can do to combat these factors is to keep a bottle of personal lubricant in your bedside table and reach it for it as soon as you and your partner start to get intimate. Not only will it take the pressure off her to naturally get wet, because, let's face it, women aren't human waterfalls, and we can't always get wet on cue. It's going to make everything feel smoother and more comfortable.

ASTROGLIDE has a really great range of personal lubricants to choose from including:

Water-based lube - a good starting point if you're new to using lubricant because it most closely resembles a woman's natural lubrication.

Silicone-based lube - these feel very silky and smooth and luxurious to touch. They're also great for water play.

Oil-based lube - which can double as a massage oil that you can integrate into foreplay.

Hack # 3 - The Sweet Spot

It's reported that roughly two-thirds of women require sustained, direct clitoral stimulation in order to reach climax. More often than not, regular penis in vagina sex does not include direct clitoral stimulation. The best thing you can do to increase her chances of getting to orgasm is to incite her clitoris to the party. A great way to do that is to manually stimulate it with your fingers or invite her to do it with her fingers, which can be super sexy to watch.

Another great way to stimulate her clitoris and give her the best chance possible to get to that Big O is by getting a small hand held clitoral vibrator. Vibrators help to increase bloodflow to the clitoris which is going to help it get swollen and engorged just like a woman's clitoris does just before orgasm. Whether you use fingers or a vibrator, just make sure you always use a small amount of personal lubricant when you are stimulating the clitoris. This is because the clitoris has around 8,000 nerve endings so it is very sensitive. Too much friction can be very uncomfortable. Personal lubricant is going to reduce the friction so she can simply lie back, enjoy the sensations, and wait for that Big O. Hopefully these tips will help you go forth and have better, wetter, more orgasmic sex!